the five love languages

next book on the relationship circuit...the five love languages.

so my old boss/relationship guru teresa gave me this book after i got out of a serious long relationship. again she said i needed to read it and that it would seriously help in having successful future relationships.

there is a quiz in the back of the book which helps you identify your love language and of course i promptly took it (not having read the book). my answers were all over the place and inconclusive. my mom said that having been in a relationship that failed i probably couldn't very accurately identify my love language (in fact the book also mentions that if your 'love tank' has been seriously low for an extended period of time it will be difficult to discover your love language).

so about a year later...take two. according to the book (and author gary chapman) there are five love languages:

words of affirmation

quality time

receiving gifts

acts of service

physical touch

most people speak one of these love languages (in some cases you can be bilingual). the key is to find out your significant other's love language and learn to speak that to them.

for example if your significant other loves spending time together; whether that's taking a walk in the evening, sitting and talking on the couch or even doing an activity they'd like (bike ride!!); then you make sure to take the time and do that for them.

the point made by the book is that if you can speak your significant other's love language and they can speak yours then each of your 'love tanks' will stay full. which results in a loving successful relationship.

this book was a much quicker read than the last primarily because it had quite a few interesting stories that he then used as examples for applying the five love languages.

i have also been quizzing a lot of my friends about their love language which is very very entertaining :)