if love is a game, these are the rules

my old boss (and relationship guru) teresa recommended this book to me and stated i had to read it before getting into another relationship. she said that over a year ago...yikes!! i'm going to assume that's the reason why i've been boyfriend-less all this time :)

so all you boys out there, nay all you MEN out there i've read the book and i'm ready for you.

ha.

anyways so for my take on the book. it lays out 10 rules:

1. you must love yourself first

2. partnering is a choice

3. creating love is a process

4. relationships provide opportunities to grow

5. communication is essential

6. negotiation will be required

7. your relationship will be challenged by change

8. you must nurture the relationship for it to thrive

9. renewal is the key to longevity

10. you will forget all this the moment you fall in love

under the chapter 'you must love yourself first' it talks about self fulfilling prophecies. for example if you believe you aren't special you won't be treated as special. essentially you need to accept yourself and yes love yourself. build up your self worth.

this is definitely something i should be working on. unfortunately my self esteem has been a wee bit low lately. the first step to over coming this is acknowledging this fact yeah?

there is this amazing article by sheri dew from the 2001 byu women's conference titled 'knowing who you are - and who you have always been' [link ]. i think women should probably read it at least once of month.

"if we could comprehend how glorious a righteous woman made perfect in the celestial kingdom will be, we would rise up and never be the same again"

"my dear sisters, will you seek to remember with the help of the holy ghost who you are and who you have always been? will you remember that you stood by our savior without flinching? remember that you were reserved for now because you would have the courage and determination to face the world at its worst and to help rear and lead a chosen generation. remember the covenants you have made and the power they carry. remember that you are noble and great and a potential heir of all our father has. remember that you are the daughter of a king."

powerful stuff yeah? i'm not sure exactly how to truly build self worth. yes the book talks about treating yourself how others should treat you, self care, blah-blah-blah...but remembering our divine nature is probably going to uplift us the most.

so ladies, i think you're gorgeous, amazing, brilliant but most importantly you are loved...just as you are :)

p.s.

this post took a life of its own so i'll do more of the book later.

p.p.s.

if love is a game, these are the rules - posts 1, 2, 3, 4, 5

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