if love is a game, these are the rules

chapter 2 - partnering is a choice

what does that mean? you need to take action and be decisive.

i'm guilty once again. i'm not quite the go getter when it comes to relationships. i historically have let what happens happens.

i now know that i need to take action. first, know what i want. second, create my vision. third, recognize what might be in my way. and fourth, manifest my intention.

one thing i loved about this chapter is the 'sample list' they provide. an imaginary girl 'jennifer' lists things that her significant other must have, her wish list and knock outs.

must haves are self explanatory...the person must possess those traits or it's a no go. wish list are items that would be nice if that person possessed but not completely necessary (example loves to travel). knock outs are items that if possessed allow you to easily recognize that they aren't for you.

since reading this i've been casually asking people what some of their 'must haves' are. most people don't have a set list...if you are one of those i encourage you to spend sometime thinking about it! it can be fun, feel free to call me and we can chat about it!!

my brother's list is pretty basic...virtuous and hardworking (with a little frugality added in :)

maybe i shouldn't post my (constantly changing) list but here goes:

honors priesthood

does not have a temper

can be spontaneous

will to/quick to serve others

sense of humor

wants to be happy, smiles

hardworking

enjoys small things

makes goals, completes goals

strong

there are other things like - willing to work on the relationship, open minded/not judgey, wants to be a father, etc. making the list is way hard. but i'm working on it. i also do think having the knockout or no go list is important too. for me big ones would be - does not like my family (not that it's possible to not like my family :) and is quick to anger.

anyway...what's on your list? if you're married, what are qualities that you love/appreciate about your spouse? help a girl out yeah? :)

p.s.

if love is a game, these are the rules - posts 1, 2, 3, 4, 5

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